Archive for the 'Living Life' Category

02
Aug
08

Music Video How I Would Do It, NEYO Closer

I’ve been studying up on film for a few years now. I’ve had some great instructors and I’m really looking forward to brining some of my IPs to the big screen. One of the things I’ve wanted to do for a long time, to build credibility in that industry, is to direct music videos. Much smaller budgets, quick turnaround, and a very exciting subject matter makes me want to do this even more. Though I know each video has to have its own voice, I can pretty much sense an overall video style I’ve fallen in love with in my head. Though this video by NeYo isn’t exactly it, It’s very close. I love this song and this video. It’s been out for a few months but it still inspires me to branch into film.

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01
Aug
08

Wii Want to Play (Hardware)

So, I think I may have to break down and buy a Nintendo Wii this upcoming week. I’ve been holding off on it forever, but I think it just time to get it done. I didn’t like the system when if first came out and all the different controllers seemed like gimmicks to sell more shit. I’m not a full convert yet, but I’m definitely starting to become a believer.

Aside from being a great value, the system really is a fantastic piece of hardware. It looks great in a bachelor pad’s living room, or any room at that. It has very smooth, Apple styling which almost makes it part of the décor of your place. The games available on the platform are geared more towards the causal gamer so anyone of any age can pick it up and start playing.

This will be the only system I will actually suggest that you play when a girl is around. It may sound uncool, but playing a few rounds of wii sports with a cute gal after a date is a great way to put her at ease, dispel any awkwardness regarding the question of “what happens nex”, and gives both of you a chance to talk and laugh without making you look like a dork. It shows that your up with technology, that you have great design taste, that you can have fun and be confident in who you are, and that you’re not just about sleeping with her. Believe it or not, this can go a long way in making her associate you with fun and good times.

31
Jul
08

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Women hate that phrase. To most of them it’s the guy’s get out of jail free card for ending or preventing a relationship without a solid explanation. The slightest mention of the phrase is enough to send women into furious a rage. Then the questions come: Am I not pretty enough, was it something I did, is it my family, is it my friends? They can’t grasp that maybe there is nothing wrong with them at all, the guy simply can’t make the commitment to her like she would like him to. Even worse is the fact that sometimes she just isn’t what he wants or needs, but there is in fact nothing wrong with her. It’s not her, it’s him.

So what do you do when this is the only truth you know, or the only truth you want to give for the sake of her feelings? I mean let’s be honest, the wrong words can crush a woman and damage her beyond belief. Why would any guy want the responsibility of pointing out exactly what it is about her that makes her not right for him? It’s not as if she could just change it, and if she did she wouldn’t be true to herself. You got to love people as they are or not at all, at least in the romantic sense. But a woman that doesn’t exactly match what you’re looking for can still be loved by you, just not in a relationship setting. It seem to make more sense to give her the honest but less hurtful answer of it’s not you it’s me, then to point out the things about her you don’t like. They are not flaws on her part, just personal preferences on his.

Now most women will immediately jump to the assertion that this is all about looks. We’ll why lie, a good portion of it is. How can you have a true, lasting relationship with someone you don’t have passion and desire for? That’s only part of it though. Everyone has specific needs in their lives that they need to have met in order to be happy. What good does it do to lie to yourself about these needs?

It’s about being honest with yourself and her. If you want a glamorous girl on your arm, and you can never seem to get your girl to get dressed up the way you’d like, that’s a fair reason to end it. And the statement would be true, honest, and respectful. It’s not that there is something wrong with her; it’s that you want something that she’s no providing. A woman can call this shallow but they do this to us all the time. Not that they can really be blamed for it. What’s the point of being in a real adult relationship with someone that you don’t think is perfect for you?

This is even harder when you actually do care about the woman deeply but can’t be with her because she’s just not right for you. She’s going to continue to try to break out of that friendship zone which causes tension. She can’t be that total confidant because once you start talking about going out with other people or anything similar the claws come out. This tension remains and grows. The more you care about the girl the harder it gets. Much of that tension could be elevated if a woman would just take the truth “it’s not you, it’s me” at its real value and not dismiss it as an excuse. We don’t need excuses. If we don’t want to be with a woman and we want to be a dick about it we can just cut her out of our lives completely. It’s because we care that we say these things.

So if you’re going to use “it’s not you, it’s me” to try to get a woman to understand, be warned. Even though it’s probably the truest thing you can say to her, she’s not going to accept at face value And if she really insists on knowing why she’s not what you need…maybe you have to let her take her heart into her own hands and pull the trigger. Even then she won’t understand that it’s not that there is something wrong with her, Its just a desire for something she’s not providing.

29
Jul
08

10 Habits of Happy People

 

7 habits of really happy people

1. Don’t care what others think

They don’t care what others think or have to say. If they did, they wouldn’t let themselves free and be happy because of the possibility of scrutiny.

Really happy people also never let negative people and their attitudes get to them. Whatever the negative people say or do just rolls off the backs of the happy people.

2. Always looking at the bright side of things

No matter what situations are thrown at a happy person, they look for the bright side. Everything that is negative has a positive side to it. Negativity wouldn’t exist without positivity. Happy people know this and have practiced looking for the bright side so much that now it has become a habit. And even if a happy person can’t find the bright side of something, they’ll create it.

3. Being friendly

Happy people are always looking to make friends. They don’t care what you look like or what background you come from, they just want someone new to laugh and be happy with. And by default happy people are friendly; everyone wants to be happy as well and are drawn to them.

If you know a friendly person who is always making fun of others to bring them down, then they aren’t truly happy person. There’s something inside of them that they are insecure about.

4. Laugh & Smile

This habit goes along with being friendly. I have NEVER seen a happy person not smile or laugh. It just isn’t physically possible. However, a really happy person smiles so much that they turned it into a habit. You might even see them smiling for no real reason, it’s that natural to them. Laughing is another mandatory habit of really happy people. If you or they aren’t laughing, then there’s no true happiness.

5. Live in the moment

Really happy people make the most of every minute and day they have. They aren’t going to wait to have fun; they’re going to create fun now.

6. Push aside their troubles

Even if a happy person can’t find or create the positive side of a situation, they do the next best thing, they push it aside. They forget about it and move on because they know it’s only temporary and they know they can make their troubles leave even sooner.

7. Laugh in the face of fear

Just like the rest of us, really happy people have fears. Most of the time they just don’t display it. Happy people make jokes to lighten the mood and to make others feel more relaxed so they will too.

8. Don’t Dwell on Past Mistakes

Can’t walk forward with looking forward. You can’t change what already happened. You miss opportunities because you don’t see them when they arise.

9. Seize the Opportunities

Take smart chances where you know the goods and the negatives, but if you feel you can do something, do it.

10. Separate Yourself From Negative People

Negative things happen to me surrounded by negative people. If you have to look over your shoulder every second to make sure someone isn’t going to jump you, how could you possibly be truly happy.

 

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